How to quit your job and make money from home

Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.
~~Albert Einstein

You want to quit your job and make money from home? I too enjoy living in the edge.

Well I’d be glad to help but we have to start with your while perception of success because if you found this article by Googling the title then you’re already starting at the wrong point.

First, if you’re working from home then you’re a business owner. So you’re really asking how to run your own business. At which point I have to back up and say; what? I can’t exactly tell you how to run your business because it’s of your own design and consequence. More importantly, if you’re asking that question you probably still haven’t quit your job and that’s probably the most important step to you.

Stop right there! I want you to understand where priority número uno comes from and it builds into the real answers behind all these other questions.

The real point of everything we’re doing here is happiness, right? Then how are we going to be most happy? Well, probably by spending more time being with people and doing things that we love.

A business that exists to generate revenue just so you can escape something like your 9-5 never moves very far. I say this because I know your drive for your own happiness can build a great business. All that bubbling passion can’t exert passed your skin without making something valuable manifest.

The pursuit of happiness builds futures. If we can nurture that component of our brain that’s hell-bent on its thirst for real happiness then we can so anything.

So the best way for you to rise from the working class to the entrepreneurial class is to live like you’re already an entrepreneur. If you behave like a millionaire then you’ll eventually have what a millionaire has. Namely, success in everything you touch. That kind of golden-thumb effect comes from a network of advantages from resourcefulness, to mental health, legal savvy, not least of which is marketing practice and branding. Nonetheless, happiness builds a distinguishable energy in your character that manages to culminate that network.

Be happy and success will come.

7 ways to know she’s into you even if she doesn’t say it

Good girls go to heaven, bad girls go everywhere.
~~Mae West

Men, let’s face it. We like to know that we can control our world, but that security is compromised whenever we can’t understand the problem. Hence, we fear what we don’t understand. When it comes to women we hardly ever understand them, which makes them frighteningly unpredictable, and that fear is read as insecurity. In honor if all my make brethren out there we’re going to list all the ways women leak their attraction without saying it. A little less mystery is a little more resolve.

1) Undivided attention

Men tend to be more linearly-minded than women. Women, on the other hand, tend to have their attention on a thousand emotional awarenesses, a million memories, and five conversations all at once. When she puts all that down to you talk for more than 45 seconds you know you’re reaching a breaking point.

Notice her unwavering eye-contact and make a mental note of her body language. Are her torso and legs both facing your direction or is she half engaged in something else? Remember when it comes to the undivided attention test silence is golden, but even if she interrupts you that may be because she’s excited about the conversation.

2) Proactive on the daily

As men, we’re typically the ones sending texts and making phone calls to arrange our get-togethers. So when a women takes care if that schedule you’ll know it’s because she’s making the effort to see you frequently. And who doesn’t like to feel like their the center of attention.

Attempting to see you on a frequent or even daily basis is flattering but don’t forget to return the favor. She’s spending time with you because she wants your attention so when you agree to her coming over Thursday evening don’t disappear with your friends to play Guitar Hero in the other room.

3) History lessons

Does she feel the need to divulge the sequence of her filial history from childhood to now? Does she enjoy going over her track record of ex-boyfriends with you? Those history lessons are an attempt at opening up.

A woman that shares her history is a woman with nothing to hide. It’s a great indicator of honesty. Not to mention a great foundation for trust. People don’t just pour their family’s dirty laundry because they see you as an acquaintance.

These history lessons, albeit sometimes difficult to listen to, are a important. Not just to her, but if you’re genuinely interested in the processes of her soul you’ll find them important too. They tell a tale that tells her tail. In other words, paying attention to her history will clue you in on how to love her in the now!

4) Volunteering her itinerary

Women are free spirits. As such, none of them want to have to report to a man. Much less be told what to do and when to do it. Which is why when a woman volunteers information about where she’s been and how her day went without you asking it’s safe to assume she’s genuinely interested and is looking for an excuse to connect with you. Even if it shortens her the scape of her latent independence. The value comes from her sharing her world with you.

5) Emotionally evasive maneuvers

And I don’t mean the conniving kind! I mean she’s evading your radical emotions! If she’s taking practical steps to avoid subjects that make you insecure or places your not comfortable in then you’ve got yourself a keeper.

These women are living life with you in mind. And mindful women are women that will contribute best to your environment. Plus, it really means she’s earnestly trying to make you happy.

6) Makes you stuff

If baked goods, original art, and gifted textiles are frequently coming your way it’s because she’s trying to contribute to the value of your day. The funny part is that, that usually means you made her feel that way first and it made her feel like returning the gesture.

7) Lifestyle alterations

Without a doubt this has to be the most critical indicator of female attraction this side of the Atlantic! Especially amongst our predominately independent female demographic. People just don’t like change! Much less change for someone else.

Whether she’s choosing you over a high-value opportunity or kicking a habit that doesn’t resonate with you; take the hint that this person is willing to take strides and leaps for you. All of these alterations to lifestyle big or small speak volumes about your position in her mind and heart. A woman only makes changes like this when she prioritizes you to little less than herself. Isn’t that just cute?

4 ways to de-escalate conflict

First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, and then you win.
~~Mahatma Gandhi

1) Digest before you deficate

Our perception is important to us. Our perceptions is the cross-hatched contact of reality and our ability to grasp it. Makes sense that it’s so important to us as individuals. What’s more, we even tend to prioritize our perception of reality over reality itself. It’s a bad habit because it’s the singular cause of miscommunication. If you can’t conform your mind to reality than you’re just making stuff up as you go along.

In a relationship that means we as humans are more inclined to consider what we think or how we feel about what someone is telling us more than the content they’re trying to convey. Which typically leads to interruptions and miscommunication which is the source of all escalatory conflict.

The answer? Simple. Make it a part of your personal code to count 6 seconds after your opposer finishes talking to be sure they’re really done talking and to take a moment to absorb everything they’re trying to say. Realize what they’re saying may be saturated in poor delivery and the real problem may lie in something they struggle to communicate.

There’s few tools more effective to de-escalating conflict than a moment of silence to figure out where you are.

2) Hindsight before commitment

One of the biggest misconceptions that lead to escalated conflict is the feeling that you need to resolve everything then and there. Ironically that mentality usually crams the information you’re trying to convey in an unruly fashion making it difficult to understand and creates frustration when your opposer doesn’t immediately grasp what you’re trying to say.

I don’t like to condone procrastination but when your relationship with someone is on the line and it’s soaked in emotions I’d recommend giving yourself 24 hours minimum to reflect on the given circumstances and the message your opposer is is trying to communicate beneath their emotional disarray. In many cases several days or a whole week is necessary to internalize the source of conflict, understand your own emotions, and devise a solution.

3) Be open to changing your opinion on the spot

If you’re not willing to expand your psyche in the process of conflict then you’re only seeking to lose from it. There’s a lot to be gained from conflict from higher empathy to identifying with other vantage points. Those skills will help you both professionally and in other relationships. But if you’re closed to changing your mind about something then you’re probably just going to be frustrated when someone challenges your perception and gain nothing from it.

If you want to increase your ability to see through people and expand your own communication skills then get use to considering that you could be wrong. Don’t be a pushover and assume you must always be the problem but be open to the possibility. That moderate way of thinking will serve you well in all your social exchanges.

4) Get use to apologizing in the moment

We’ve talked a bit in this blog about what we can gain from de-escalating conflict, but in the name of altruism we’re going to take a look at the opposite side of that spectrum. The fact is beneath every content-based argument there’s an emotionally-critical one.

To that end, most people just want you to convey that you care about their misery. Well- timed apologies are the best way to accomplish that. And by well- timed I mean as soon as your opposer points out some credible reason you hurt their feelings. Few people are able to respond to confrontation with a quick apology due to pride.

That means at the end of the day your swift apology will speak volumes more to their emotions than an apology one week later would. Quick paced resolution shows that you value what your opposer is saying and that you care more about them than about being right or wrong.

How to break the ice with complete strangers

That’s the ideal meeting…once upon a time, only once, unexpectedly, then never again.
~~Helen Oyeyemi

High five!

No really. There’s some mysterious connection in the fleeting half second that consumes the high five that makes breaking our personal bubbles acceptable. Almost worth it.

If you’re saying to yourself, gee I wonder if this creeper high fives people in real life. The answer is, yes!

At a local water park I wanted to test the waters of anonymous public perception. I wanted to throw down that test to try to prove myself wrong about something. See, I’m generally apprehensive of any public gathering that requires hundreds of people to gather for a similar benefit. To me, that means hundreds of people are gathering to pretend they’re alone with that benefit.

So today I decided to tread different waters in the water park. I waited for groups of friends or families at least in 6 and decided to solicit high fives from each of them merited by nothing more than obscenely positive energy. You’d be surprise how impactful a smile can be.

My first attempt lead to a 6 out of 7 success rate. More than enough to impress the reluctant friends I brought with me. If say I high fived about 60 other people in an hour before getting tired of pushing interpersonal connection.

After a while I began to realize that despite the original selfish intention of the masses to enjoy themselves they’re still not opposed to an invasion of their personal bubble for a half moment as long as you’re having a more positive influence than they are.

People need smiles. Pass them on.

What to do with unprofitable talents

Our lives are defined by opportunities, even the ones we miss.

~~Eric Roth

 

I want to tell you a story about a friend of mine.  My friend’s a pretty good writer.  As a matter of fact he knew he loved writing since the first grade and spent everyday sitting in his room writing in his notebook about these fictional worlds that he adventured in everyday after school.  That kind of consistency leads to some serious skill development.  After about ten years of developing his writing habit the kid was a machine.  With a 106 WPM to boot and a fountain of an imagination the guy could dish out long-novels like nobody’s business.

When he grew up I noticed his only weakness in this industry is that he didn’t believe people would enjoy his fictional universes as much as he did.  Right from the jump of attempting to self-publish on Amazon my friend was met with swift failure.  I mean mind-numbing not-even-one-copy-sold kind of failure.

Very quickly he started to feel that the talent he nurtured in himself since his childhood had no value and decided just a short couple of months after starting to abandon his online store of books.

This, without a doubt, had to be the biggest failure of his career.  Not the fact that he didn’t have any sales to show for his work but the fact that he completely abandoned the project because he had an, albeit, really rough start. But after about 4 years of having neglected his Amazon account he decided to log back in and see if he might be able to try getting back into the self-publishing biz.

To his surprise, after all those years of neglect over $100,000 had developed and remained untouched in his Amazon account that hadn’t even been paid out because my friend neglected to add his payment information when he believed he would never receive a payment from Amazon.

This isn’t the first time someone has neglected their own potential for success due to an error in attitude and it won’t be the last.  Sometimes the real trick is to accept that your projects won’t turn out exactly as planned and be open to a more dynamic set-up than you were originally intending.

The real trick behind figuring out what you’re going to do with your unprofitable talents is realize that they’re not unprofitable.  You just haven’t figured out a way to profit from that talent yet but with enough innovation you’ll figure that as well.  My best advice is to keep practicing in the mean time so you’ll be ready for an opportunity to be successful using it.

What to do after you have a good idea

A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.
~~Winston Churchill

So you have a good idea, eh? Well the first thing you’ll want to do is e-mail it to me so I can use it! Just kidding. But odds are this isn’t your first great idea, but it may be the first great idea you’ve made that you’re willing to act on. Here’s where you need to start: stop telling yourself that only some of your genius should be put into practice.

Successful people have a habit if acting on every idea at their disposal. Successful people see all their ideas big or small as an opportunity. What’s more, successful people never burn their own opportunities.

This habit builds a sense of identity behind everything you do, as only you can, but also lays claim to the universe around you. Personalization imprints your personality on the universe around and on some level deeper than that makes the world your own. The more you get into a habit of rising to every small challenge that meets you and creating something new to conquer it the more likely you’re going to do the same thing when bigger obstacles approach.

But beyond that what are you going to do with this particular idea you have that lead you through the network of cyber space to this blog? Good question.

Does this idea require a commitment of time, money, or emotions? What does accomplishing the idea do for you? Why is it so important to make turn this systematic spasm of neurons jumping between your synapses a real thing?

With those answers you’re already something on the right foot. Knowing what the actualization of this idea does for you tells a lot about its value and how much you’re going to be able to realistically invest personally into it considering the amount of your drive that it invokes.

The art of starting over

Hearts rebuilt from hope resurrect dreams killed by hate.
~~Aberjhani

Dreams get crushed. It happens every day. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is clearly their reaction to being faced with such failure. Regardless if we’re talking about relationships, finance, or self- improvement; we can’t afford to see failure as a dead end. There’s an opportunity behind this experience that’s taught you, if nothing else, what not to do. If we don’t identify that then we don’t expand and if we don’t expand and grow then we lose. Every time.

The trick?

Forget about success.

I know. It sounds crazy. When there’s bills to pay and deadlines crawl ever closer it’s difficult to pretend that we’re doing anything with any other attention than to solve these problems.

The only reason I recommend forgetting about success is because as much as your mind positively reinforces your subconscious need for success it also negatively reinforces it’s opposite; and your struggle for success is met with an ironic and equivalent fear for failure. Instead look at it this way; whatever resources, whatever way, whatever I can do to positively affect myself and the people around me I must do. Regardless of whether it works or not this practice of productivity will make your forward momentum a good habit rather than a mildly subservient sentiment that you can only muster when you’re in a good mood.

One of my best friends and former boss as a TV service salesmen gave me some of the best professional advice I had ever heard; regardless of what the customer tells you, you don’t let it make your day better or worse– you feel what you want everything you do you so out of consideration.

Strong words in the sales industry. But the point of forgetting negative influences is the first step to actuating more positive ones in the present.

I like to call it the start over point. That point that you almost go back in time tracing the inclinations of your emotions rationally assessing that impulse before your fly-or-fall mentality makes you do something regrettable.

The way I see it, the more mindful we are of the source of our behavior the more likely we are to make reactive decisions that benefit ourselves and the people around us. If you have that kind of emotional time-travel on your side then who needs a tardis?